One of the traits/faults that I personally struggle with on a day to day basis is giving.
How can giving be a fault?
When I was a kid, I became an automatic giver. It made me feel good knowing that I made someones day brighter in a world full of stress and despair. So I like to make sure that my loved ones are always happy and I give up my time and energy to serve other people. Which sometimes means traveling to far places or spending the last penny I have to help out.
For some people this isn’t a fault at all! But sometimes it can go a little crazy: you begin to attract people who take advantage of you, you tend to over-commit to events or you make too many promises that things fall through the cracks and you end up feeling like you let everyone down!
That’s how I felt when I started charging people for my artwork.
I was just handing out my work for free to friends, family, and anyone else who was interested. Why? Because I love to give! But it wasn’t until one of my friends actually refused to accept a free piece and said to me “You worked so hard on this. I can’t accept it for free, this has so much value!”
And that’s when it hit me – I wasn’t valuing myself!
My giving ability was getting the best of me that while everyone else was having their way, I was the one who was unhappy and broke (both physically and emotionally). I knew I had to change my mindset and tell myself that just because I say “No” to people or add a price on my artwork doesn’t make me a bad person. It doesn’t make me sleazy and it doesn’t make me wrong, it’s adding value to me.
That doesn’t just apply to art, it applies to everything else in life. It’s okay to be a little selfish and to value yourself because at the end of the day, you are all that you have. You have to stare at yourself in the mirror and ask “Am I really happy or am I making others happy?”
I am still struggling with this in my art/personal life. I don’t consider myself as a selfish person even though there is the stereotypical myth that all artists are selfish. But we have to take care of the most important person in our lives: ourselves.
Now it’s your time to shine!
What can you do today that is for you? Take a day to yourself and really get to know who you are and what do you want to do. The best discussions happen in the comments so make sure to leave your thoughts down below. And if you know someone who can relate to this or needs a bit of a wake up call – share this post and spread some love!
Till next time – love,